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Apr 19, 2013 19:00:44 GMT -5
Post by Lemur, The Kool-Aid Guy on Apr 19, 2013 19:00:44 GMT -5
Frankly, I'm amazed that I've been here since 2011. I should have seen the signs, I should have known to leave earlier. I guess my earlier idealism endured, or my pragmatism dominated and kept me here RPing. But I now have the clarity of mind to look at this place and realize something.
It's a toxic environment.
Staff have abused their power, and when I discuss it I'm attacked by the junkyard dog, called a liar, and my thread is locked. And that's just the surface of the iceberg. I resigned as moderator because another staff member harassed me. I've seen staff carry on feuds, get away with things ordinary members never would, and I've seen people cover each other for three month absences. One of our administrators even insulted my writing and told me my characters were terrible.
I have seen good people, nice and modest humble people, get sucked into the inner circle of SWU, and it destroys them. They used to be kind and understanding, and suddenly they turn into apologist shills for the status quo.
SWU is rotten to the core, a decaying wooden structure covered in shiny marble that attracts unwitting new members who will be treated as disposable, and worthless. The only way they gain worth on this site is by selling out, by joining the inner circle. Even sympathy for those who leave is an offense.
What this site needs is a purge, to wipe out every trace of this corrupt circle.
For me, I will just be content to leave it. Once and for all, something I should have done a long time ago.
Live in the bubble of you wish. I choose not to.
Goodbye.
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Dutch
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Apr 19, 2013 19:08:21 GMT -5
Post by Dutch on Apr 19, 2013 19:08:21 GMT -5
<the remainder of this post has been deemed unfit for public consumption and is thus CENSORED>
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Apillis
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Apr 19, 2013 21:50:25 GMT -5
Post by Apillis on Apr 19, 2013 21:50:25 GMT -5
Let's be candid once again. You're going to lurk from time to time, and still hang out in SWU chats here and there. And after several months of this (if that, personally guessing much sooner) you're going to come back. Is all this temper-tantrum hissy fit you're having surprising to any of us? Not at all. It's actually been predicted for some time now as evidence given by your antics over the course of your being here. Because any time you've been called out for your own nonsense and belittling antics and insults, you start whining about how no one loves you and everyone is just mean and you're the poor, poor victim. You've attempted to utilize this entire site as your own ego boost, and I think it's only now that you're starting to realize this isn't your personal support group where all things bow low to your whim and cater to soothing your insecurities. I mean, for f***-sake you labelled yourself as "the people's mod" not as a joke but because that's how you literally viewed yourself, what kind of megalomaniac, self-indulgent, egoist does that? I'm sorry that your belief that you're SWU Batman isn't a reality--actually, no, I'm not sorry, in fact, this is yet another reality that needs to be drilled into your skull rather than the artificial facts you put in your head out your bipolar disposition. You don't like being insulted, dismissed, or condescended to? Too damn bad, maybe you should learn not to do so to others, then maybe they won't reply in kind. Welcome to being treated like an adult. Surprise--the world isn't your mother's house. Time to learn how to be a big boy. When you say something, people are going to respond--you don't have freedom from that, and when constantly being passive-aggressive in your commentary when they say something that isn't in line with your own beliefs/opinions, shocker--they're not going to be so delicate with you anymore. You may not like that, you may want to continue being treated with kid-gloves and not be reasoned with or view as an adult, but again--too damn bad. Time to grow up. In any case, we'll see you in a few months it seems.
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Rugs
The ring-dang-doo, now what is that?
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Apr 19, 2013 21:56:50 GMT -5
Post by Rugs on Apr 19, 2013 21:56:50 GMT -5
I was wondering when this would happen. Suppose I have a few things to say, though I've been out for 12 hours and I'm tired, so I'll try to be brief. Knowing me it won't be, though.
Am I surprised? No, not particularly. It's follows logically in the pattern of behavior I've come to recognize that you take whenever confronted with an issue.
If you do something and someone disagrees with you, or calls you on the underlying issue in your behavior, you always try to make yourself the victim. Never you, no, it's always them. Get pressed and you just cut yourself off; block from messengers, remove from social media, so on and so forth. You quit your job, whether it be hobby or real. You try to put blame on everyone but yourself. If a group of people tells you the same thing, if a group disagrees or chastises you, well it's not your fault. It's an attack. It's the mob, trying to suppress you, conspiring against you, plotting ill.
But it's never you, even when people agree with you, if not in exactly the way you want. It's always someone else.
Then you go and run to people not involved and try to spin things into what they aren't. You were attacked. It wasn't you. It was the ever-present them, out to get you. I've watched it happen, quietly. I've also watched the reactions of those same people you run to when the bare facts of a case, often simple logs, are presented. It's not what you probably think it is.
But that just makes those people a part of them, I suppose.
And that's not even to say that sometimes you aren't in the right, or that sometimes you aren't attacked. But considering the overreactions, the fits and screaming and yelling when you can't have your way, it's not really that surprising that people turn against you after a while. It's human nature.
I told you once, long ago, to take a look at all the problems, all the issues, all the altercations that you've had with people and to consider the common element. That's clearly not happened.
But am I surprised? No, not particularly.
It's not surprising from someone who'd rather skip over a post addressing them in a thread of their own creation instead of reading, considering the point raised and responding. Why bother? It's probably just them, coming to attack again. If they say the problem might be me, it has to be, right?
It's not surprising from someone who clearly has so fundamental a misunderstanding of human nature as to not be able to understand why other people would get upset at the dismissal of a bombing at the largest marathon in the country in one of the country's largest cities. It's not surprising that the same person who'd rather quit a conversation than admit they did something in poor taste would decide elsewhere to take his ball and go home than possibly reexamine what it is that makes all the problems they're involved in.
Though I suppose we already know the answer to that. It's them, of course. As it always is.
So, as you leave, I'll wish you well. I do hope, as you move through college and advance out into wherever life takes you, that you do learn to look at these things, learn to deal with people better. Because you're not going anywhere out in the real world if you keep on the way you are.
So, goodbye, and good luck.
ETA: Apillis wtf sneaking in posts while I'm writing
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sparrow
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Apr 19, 2013 22:09:13 GMT -5
Post by sparrow on Apr 19, 2013 22:09:13 GMT -5
Thank you for removing toxicity from the site.
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Fromikeable
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Apr 19, 2013 23:27:43 GMT -5
Post by Fromikeable on Apr 19, 2013 23:27:43 GMT -5
I could try defending you like usual, but I'm really too sick of it all to continue doing so. So just allow me to say,
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Mara
nothing worth anything ever goes down easy
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Apr 20, 2013 1:06:50 GMT -5
Post by Mara on Apr 20, 2013 1:06:50 GMT -5
Sorry to see you go, lmr. *huggles* I always enjoyed you here, for what it's worth.
[I'll PM you my e-mail, in case you want to stay in touch...]
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Poludnica
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Apr 20, 2013 1:42:43 GMT -5
Post by Poludnica on Apr 20, 2013 1:42:43 GMT -5
Finally you found some productive solution to the problem. When you don't like it on one site, instead of throwing pointless fits, move on. Just don't get yourself banned out of those other places, that would be bad so maybe save your account here. You know, just in case.
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Alaska!
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Apr 20, 2013 2:27:15 GMT -5
Post by Alaska! on Apr 20, 2013 2:27:15 GMT -5
I'll miss ya. Talk to you on Skype!~
:3
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Apr 20, 2013 4:28:06 GMT -5
Post by Juzt on Apr 20, 2013 4:28:06 GMT -5
I am not sure how to go about this. I am very sad to see you go. I did not always agree or like some of the things you said, but I don't think you ever meant them with malice. So I coudl never really be angry with you. As a rule I tend to keep out of the non-RP threads but I thought I should say thank you and good bye to the guy who really broke me into this site, and was a lot of fun to RP with. I was reading the thread that led to all of this, and was thinking can't we all just get along? I do hope when things have cooled down you can meet in the middle and will be able to come back. I am always about if you want to talk, and I hope one day you reconsider and come back, particullary if you have an RP idea to pitch to me. Over and out buddy
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Swamps
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Apr 20, 2013 15:17:51 GMT -5
Post by Swamps on Apr 20, 2013 15:17:51 GMT -5
I wish you all the luck in the world and despite the frustration you cause me I continue to hope that you'll manage to tackle your challenges.
You need to be positive and allow people to make mistakes and moves as you do. People are complicated and will not, however much you may wish it, fit into your wished shapes. They are complex and layered.
The solution to this complexity is not to push them harder into these shapes or to complain that they will not fit. It is to accept that they will not, and learn from this. No experience in life is simple, no relationship is what it seems and no patience is endless.
Not ours, not yours.
I urge you to think deeply over how you see the world and will continue to pray and hope that you will find a better frame of mind to inhabit. You're a good writer and a fun guy to be around when you're not being aloof or seeking our approval. Just be yourself and allow others to do the same.
Swampy.
EDIT: I've just read your Abuse of Power thread and felt all empathy and hope for you fade terrifyingly quickly. I pray that you manage to heal whatever ailment is causing you to be so dismissive and so close-minded about people and wish you the best of luck in your future.
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Ghostie
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Apr 21, 2013 8:07:30 GMT -5
Post by Ghostie on Apr 21, 2013 8:07:30 GMT -5
It was nice... ... For a while, at least.
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Apr 21, 2013 13:04:11 GMT -5
Post by Adobi-Wan Kenobi on Apr 21, 2013 13:04:11 GMT -5
*sigh*
He did the same thing on another RP site a couple of days ago. I think it's just a phase...
Hope things do go better where ever it is he's heading.
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Jenno
Still glorious, but no longer your leader.
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Apr 23, 2013 3:01:45 GMT -5
Post by Jenno on Apr 23, 2013 3:01:45 GMT -5
But not before you write an over dramatised post. Amrite?
I honestly don’t know where to start.
Like others have said, I’m not overly surprised and I think what’s been said covered a lot of what you need to hear, particularly what Rugs wrote.
I was thinking I wouldn’t even write one of these, but I may as well, just on the off chance you read it, and the even slimmer chance you actually listen to what’s being said.
The first thing that comes to mind as you look to move on to other sites is that things will probably end the same way there as they have done here/before. I think one of the reasons is down to the fact that you don’t seem to know how to compromise. I generally try and explain issues to staff and members whenever brought up or when they have a question for me. I’m fairly confident I did the same with you, in the beginning at least. But you were unrelenting in your belief that you were always perfectly right. I mean, I’m pretty darn stubborn, but even I was amazed that you would not concede on any sort of point, and at times it was pretty darn silly.
With other sites this just means you’re going to clash with people because not everyone shares the same view as you. And as we’ve seen, people eventually get tired when you make yourself out to be a victim all the time. Sure, I get the desire for a bit of an ego boost every once in a while, hearing people say nice things about you and your writing, but when you’re telling people half a story in order to get that, then something’s not right. Those people you wrote about who changed, those were people you weren’t truthful with, people who were then exposed to the full story and understood what actually happened/was said during these incidents where you cried out victim.
I think the most frustrating part for me was always that I saw potential, but the way you deal with criticism just doesn’t help anything. If it’s about how you are at times, you’re immediately offended. I’m not sure why, it’s not like you’re not without your vices, everyone’s got them. I’ve had people call out negative aspects of how I am, sure it can sting a bit, but at the end of the day, those vices are part of who I am. I don’t know if you’re lying to yourself about their existence or simply don’t want to see those aspects of yourself. But you need to, so that you can accept them and, if you want to, try and change them. Simply avoiding them does nothing.
You also didn’t take negative comments towards your writing very well. But if you want to be a great writer, those negative comments are your lifeblood, without them your writing will not improve. Use them to grow, not as a platform to cry out that you’re being a victim. Every time you do that you isolate yourself more from the people around you, the people who are trying to help you. The people who want to help you.
I think I'll stop there, 'cause I may have just wasted my time anyway. But I'll end with saying that I still think you have potential. You just have to be willing to listen to others, take what they say on board and sit and think about things a bit. You're writing's already at a decent level, but it could get even better if you listened to both the good and bad comments. And I feel as though the next site you stop at will go a lot smoother if you apply at least some awareness of some of the things people have said to you. If you ever want to talk honestly, bluntly and earnestly about any of these issues then my Skype address is easy to get hold of.
So, regardless of if you read this or not, good luck with wherever you head and I hope you enjoy your adventures.
~Jenno
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Oct 22, 2013 23:42:41 GMT -5
Post by tacschinu0biscuits on Oct 22, 2013 23:42:41 GMT -5
I love Lemur, First person I RP'd with. Sad to see this... Well.... Seems like he is not comin' back, Sure showed all of you saying He'll come back few months time. Huehue...
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Dutch
Darth Awesome, Specialist at Everything
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Feb 11, 2015 0:46:10 GMT -5
Post by Dutch on Feb 11, 2015 0:46:10 GMT -5
Moved to a less toxic environment Archive
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